Breaking the Cycle of Blame and Complaint

Once, a priest shared some wise words with me: if you spend too much time with someone who constantly complains, you'll start complaining too, without even realizing it. It's a common human tendency, rooted in our nature since the time sin entered the world through our first parents, Adam and Eve. They shifted blame onto others, blaming the serpent for their actions. And so, we humans often struggle to accept our faults, instead choosing to point fingers at others for our mistakes.

This tendency is prevalent in many aspects of our lives. For example, in Ghana, there's a popular saying among teachers: they are blamed for poor student performance, but when students excel, all the credit is given to the students themselves. It's a cycle that even students perpetuate, taking pride in their achievements but quick to blame others when things go wrong.

But why do we do this? It's because we create our problems and then conveniently shift the blame onto others when things go awry. This behavior permeates every aspect of our lives. We fail to acknowledge our weaknesses and instead find fault with everything around us, forgetting that we are the ones who created the very things we complain about.

I once had a friend who would consistently do the opposite of what was expected and then complain when faced with the consequences. He would then go on to complain that his superiors didn't like him, completely disregarding the fact that he was the one who caused the problem in the first place.

It's time for us to break free from this cycle of blame and complaint. Let's take responsibility for our actions and admit our shortcomings. Only then can we truly grow and improve? So, the next time you catch yourself pointing fingers, remember that we are all creators of our destiny.